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Adventures, Advice and Questions from a group of Mormon women who met in Queens, NY and have now scattered all over the place.
Friday, May 05, 2006
A question from a frustrated newlywed: Do garments ever get better?
We recently received the following comment on a really old post. Instead of letting it get lost in the archives, I thought I should make it a post of it's own to see if we can help this girl out (or at least share in her pain).
I need some advice. A friend in my ward told me about this site, and I have loved reading advice and different situations that LDS women offer to one another. I am in need of help and dont know quite who to talk to. I have been happily married now for 6 months. I was almost 27 when my husband and I were married in the temple. I am now getting use to wearing garments and it has not been an easy transition.
The reason I find it hard to discuss this is because people are quick to jump at the idea of me not appreciating what garments stand for. To set the record straight, I love the purpose for garments and I understand how important and sacred they are. That is not my concern. My concern is that everyday (and night), I am uncomfortable in a tugging and pulling kind of way. I find them very unnatural for a womens body and so diffucult to wear with clothing. Modesty is not an issue for me, but the fact that every waist band comes up past my belly button is hardly in sync with my jeans. (Yes I have tried every size, material, shape etc.. Even the 2xs petite) I find myself becoming resentful because i am so physically uncomfortble.
I also loved the websites to modest tee's etc... Great idea, however, living in southern California makes layering diffucult. It is already very warm each day with just a garment top and shirt. Layering is out of the question other than about 2 months each year. IS THIS EVER GOING TO GET BETTER?? I am really concerned that I may never get use to this change. And in my opinion it is a major change!
Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Thanks, A frustrated newlywed