17 different women, 36 crazy children, 0 babies in utero
Adventures, Advice and Questions from a group of Mormon women who met in Queens, NY and have now scattered all over the place.
Sunday, September 24, 2006
Stand By Your Man
I first had the idea for this post back in July, but Oprah (I know, can I please get my inspiration from somewhere else?), brought it back to my attention on her Tuesday show. [The following should be read in your head with a Nancy Grace-like voice and inflection.]
I know that we try to be covenant-keeping people, and keep our marriages and families together, and hopefully never think long about the "what if's" in life...but these two women and their REactions to their husbands ACTIONS, have my head reeling and my heart rate pumping.
Let's talk first about our Senator Hillary Clinton. I know it takes a city...I mean a village...I read the book, I even lik some of your politics...but come ON. Your husband is the PRESIDENT of the United States, and he has an affair with an intern. I can't decide if staying by his side was helping or hurting the feminist movement. In some ways I think: He totally DISSED (putting it nicely) you in front of the entire Global Population...and you remain by his side. What gives? You don't need him. He obviously does not respect your marriage...
On the other hand, I see that perhaps staying married to the president of the free world is a good strategy to gain political power. Maybe she is a power-monger (is that a real word?) Of course there is speculation about their marriage being a "real" marriage, and I am sure that some marriages are a political/business/whatever arrangement, but since my marriage isn't like that (well 99% of the time it isn't), I just don't get it.
Now let's move on to Dina McGreevey. How in tarnation did you stand there in a baby blue suit, nodding, smiling, and holding the Governor's hand? Not only did he COMPLETELY deceive you by pretending to be heterosexual, having sex with you, and fathering your child. BUT....he also had an affair in YOUR BED while you were recovering from a botched C-section in the HOSPITAL. Just TYPING this gets my heart pumping.
I am sorry, but there is no WAY I would have been at that press conference. I would have had my own, down the street in my favorite Betsey Johnson dress (appropriate cover-up as needed), blurting out "When you______, I felt ________, because _________"...and that would be the extent of my politcal correctness.
I realize that some of the motivation behind their actions was political, and for that I hate politics even more. Are there any happily-ever-afters to these affairs? Is it better to forgive, forget (heaven help me), and move forward? Is it better to try to work it out then have a broken family and grow old with someone else or alone? I do not believe it would be possible for me to have stood by either of these men... Does that make me immature? unforgiving? hateful?
I JUST couldn't do it.