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Tuesday, July 25, 2006

The man of my dreams...

I have always had vivid dreams...and I tend to remember them (for good or bad). It's actually something I like about myself. I learn about me and my relationships with others through my dreams. They also serve as some bizarre entertainment now and again.

And once in awhile...I have absolutely torrid, hot and kooky dreams about other men that I am not married to. Lots of times I never see their face, just what we're doing. It's almost better that way. 2 or 3 times these dreams have involved people I actually know or are friends with (husbands of friends pop up now and again - it's AWFUL. Seriously awful). And sometimes...a few famous men drop by.

My most recent "conquest" in my dreams? It's totally bizarro, I know. Anderson Cooper. Just typing his name makes me blush right now. Me and Anderson Cooper had a REALLY good time and shouldn't he be covering the crisis in the Middle East instead of me??? Oh, those eyes...Let me set the stage:

I am wearing an ill fitting bridesmaid dress with a black bow in my hair, standing in the middle of the desert. I appear to be around 20 but I can't be sure. I have that "I'm young and careless, dressed odd with lots of dark eye makeup" look. Mr. Cooper is off to the side of me, reporting on something or taking pictures of desert "locals" and our eyes met. He walks over. We never speak. And then...well...whoa mama. Can you do this kind of stuff in the desert? Is it adviseable? I can't stop thinking about him. Who knew Anderson Cooper could be so seductive out there in the sand?


There was another time a few years ago when Justin Timberlake made an appearance in my dreams. He tried everything he could think of to seduce me and nothing worked (under MOST circumstances I am very seducible) - I told him that I was happily married and we could never be together. So funny. He had cute hair...

All of this has caused me to wonder what dreams you girls have had...and if Anderson Cooper has shown up in any of them. Come on, spill it... You KNOW that you haven't been 100% faithful in your dreams...


  • um...Anderson Cooper is gay.
    posted by Anonymous Anonymous at 7/25/2006 08:13:00 AM  

  • um...I think she stated it was a DREAM. And in my opinion, he is VERY dreamy.
    posted by Blogger TftCarrie at 7/25/2006 08:26:00 AM  

  • Yes, I know that he's gay. And it was a dream. And we STILL had lots of fun :)

    Ever noticed that lots of dreamy guys are unfortunately (for us ladies) gay?
    posted by Blogger chloe at 7/25/2006 08:30:00 AM  

  • i couldn't picture in my head who anderson cooper was, so i googled him. go chloe!
    posted by Anonymous brenbot at 7/25/2006 08:52:00 AM  

  • My dreams invlove spiders.

    Big ones.

    I've never had torrid dreams (yet), just ones where spiders the size of dinner plates are attacking different people.
    posted by Blogger Starfoxy at 7/25/2006 09:46:00 AM  

  • what is it with dreams?? I had a torrid one about Colin Ferrell, and I don't even like him in real life! I told DH about it, and he was cracking up for days, until he realized Colin Ferrell was NOT Will Ferrell!
    posted by Blogger Tracy M at 7/25/2006 09:49:00 AM  

  • Is he really gay? Wow...my gaydar failed me bigtime on that one.
    posted by Blogger Jen at 7/25/2006 10:11:00 AM  

  • Colin Ferrell, yeah. There's just something about him . . . he's stopped by a couple of my dreams. . . oh and Johnny Dep, well more specifically Captain Jack Sparrow. He's hot in that movie.
    posted by Blogger Trivial Mom at 7/25/2006 10:24:00 AM  

  • I'm glad to know I'm not the only one that has those type of dreams. The most recent one involved a MTV reality show person. How crazy is that?
    posted by Blogger Erin at 7/25/2006 10:30:00 AM  

  • I never really remember my dreams. It's annoying because sometimes I wake up feeling really happy and wishing I could remember what the circumstances were.

    But I would love to remember a dream about Anderson Cooper. I agree about those eyes and he has this very attractive "refined ruggedness". Yowza. I also think Sean Connery and Harrison Ford are pretty dreamy maybe because they also have a portray a sort of "refined ruggedness". But, honestly Brad Pitt and Colin Farrell do nothing for me - maybe too rugged? Or maybe I just have some sort of freakish father complex.

    Tracy M - I bet your dh stopped laughing after her realized his mix up--there's a big difference between will farrell and colin farrell. LOL.
    posted by Blogger TftCarrie at 7/25/2006 10:44:00 AM  

  • I had a crazy dream the other night about the Take Home Chef. Has anyone else seen that show? The thing is I've only watched it once or twice and I wasn't lusting after him or anything. Random!..... must've been in my subconscious somewhere.
    posted by Blogger Beth at 7/25/2006 10:59:00 AM  

  • Tracy M., I love that your husband got the two Ferrell's confused - there is a BIG difference.

    Jen, I didn't know he was gay (or reported to be gay - he's never said publically) either. But hey, I can dream.

    Maybe he'll come back and visit me again. We can talk about how he needs to be straight. Or maybe we won't talk at all - I like it better that way :)
    posted by Blogger chloe at 7/25/2006 11:20:00 AM  

  • Um this post is kind of disturbing to me and i'm trying to put my finger on the reason why. Maybe its because if our DH's had written a post about the women of their dreams we would all be up in arms. But somehow its okay if women talk like this about men? I guess i just don't get the double standard.

    I mean, i know we all have dreams and we can't help that, but to publicly talk about sexual fantasies? A little off if you ask me. Y'all are creepin me out.
    posted by Blogger Call Me Crazy at 7/25/2006 11:44:00 AM  

  • I tell my DH about my weird sex dreams... It's not like you have control over your dreams. I don't care about his- they're dreams!
    posted by Blogger Tracy M at 7/25/2006 01:38:00 PM  

  • call me crazy, anything goes in the crib....well almost anything.

    I haven't had a dream like that in quite a while, the last ones I remember were George Clooney and Viggo. I mean, come on....he is tops for me. So dreamy. That kiss in the end of the trilogy, yowza.
    posted by Blogger Kage at 7/25/2006 01:55:00 PM  

  • To Call Me Crazy, my husband has crazy dreams too - we tell each other about them and laugh. Adn that's the end of it. Trust me, men are having the same kinds of dreams - they're just not contributors to this blog so they wouldn't write a post about it. And if they did, I wouldn't have a problem with it. I don't think there's a double standard here, at least for me there isn't. Like Tracy M. says, they're JUST dreams. We can't control our subconcious (believe me, I've tried to no avail).

    And yes, Kage, on this blog almost anything goes...
    posted by Blogger chloe at 7/25/2006 02:13:00 PM  

  • I just had my first one of these dreams since I've been married. IT was awful. It was with Wayne Coyne of the band The Flaming Lips. The dream started out interesting and it was great talking to Wayne. Then it took a turn for the worst. I felt so guilty when I remembered I was married and then Wayne morphed into this horrible dirty old man. I felt so gross and horrible when I woke up. Blech.
    posted by Blogger tamrobot at 7/25/2006 03:50:00 PM  

  • So when my DH tells me he only has sex dreams about me, he's lying?
    posted by Blogger Jen at 7/25/2006 04:15:00 PM  

  • I agree with call me crazy. Yes you can't help your dreams, but some things are truly inappropiate to talk about. Your just one dream away from day dreaming about _______? then constantly thinking about________? then flirting with other men and then before you know it that dream became a real life nightmare for you and your spouse. just a something to think about! Every action has first a thought. not to be judgemental, but rather cautious
    posted by Anonymous Anonymous at 7/25/2006 04:52:00 PM  

  • IMHO, it's a pretty far jump from dreaming about Anderson Cooper who is gay to flirting with some random straight guy in your life. At least for me. But, if you are worried about your own self control, by all means, keep your dreams to yourself.

    My husband loves when I have crazy dreams like this. He's appreciative of anything that gets my blood pumpin' because they are JUST DREAMS and he gets the reward in the end.

    Now if my dreams began being occupied by some real guy in my everyday life - like the pool man or the mailman, or the grocery store clerk, maybe it would be different? I think I would feel much more uncomfortable.
    posted by Anonymous don't call me crazy at 7/25/2006 05:12:00 PM  

  • Yeah, I don't think Viggo would ever reciprocate any moves I made on him....
    posted by Blogger Kage at 7/25/2006 05:19:00 PM  

  • Totally agree with Don't call me crazy - having dreams and reflecting on them, even talking about them is a far cry from ACTING on those dreams. And if you're concerned about acting on your dreams, there are bigger problems than just the dreams.

    Besides, I am supremely confident that anyone I have had a dream about wouldn't be interested in me in the slightest or me in them (in the real world). Probably true for my husband too.
    posted by Blogger chloe at 7/25/2006 06:25:00 PM  

  • Matthew MaConah... McCouna...Mc...Okay, so I can't spell his last name, but you know who I mean. Yeah, he's in there occasionally.

    If you feel guilty about your dreams, then I think most of us should stop dreamin'. Let's see, I have had relations in my dreams with past boyfriends, neighbors, and famous movie stars. Oh, and my husband. Of course, the best part about those dreams is that when it's DH, I can wake up and make my dreams come true. :) :)

    Oh, and just so you know, the THOUGHT needs to be voluntary and concious for it to become an action. When you are dreaming it is INvoluntary and you are NOT concious. Sorry, but I have enough things to feel guilty about... now I have to control my dreams!?!??!
    posted by Blogger Cheryl at 7/25/2006 08:16:00 PM  

  • So does that mean when I have kooky dreams about scissors and king kong and a green tomato that I am going to run off with the hairy guy next door to Alabama and move in with Idgy and Ruth after I finish cutting out my quilt??

    Egad, I would never even consider doing almost anything I dream about. It's not walking a fine line- the line is so far away, it's a flippin speck. Dream on, ladies, dream on!
    posted by Blogger Tracy M at 7/25/2006 09:39:00 PM  

  • To Tracy M, amen sister. Dream on women!
    posted by Blogger chloe at 7/25/2006 10:29:00 PM  

  • call me crazy, a litt PS. As I was brushing my teeth this morning at 5:58, I realized a few things:
    A. there has always been a double standard b/n men and women, that is why there are feminists.

    B. As to sexual fantasies. I understand those to be conscious made-up dreams/fantasies that you have a strong desire to play out. This is very different from a subconscious, you-can't-control-it dream.

    C. The content that we are sharing here is basically subjects in the dream, not the details of what went on. I think there is a big difference there.

    I didn't want to blow you off and call you crazy back, I wanted to legitimately defend my position that yeah, you might be a little crazy....but I am too.
    posted by Blogger Kage at 7/26/2006 04:15:00 AM  

  • I once had a dream about this man I wanted oh so badly. I kept telling him that I couldn't, I was married, I had a son - but he was so hot! Turns out the man I wanted so bad, was my very own husband! Not sure what that means (exept that I think my husband is hot...)
    I can see where call me crazy is coming from. I don't really see myself in this post pregnancy bod of mine falling off my chair laughing about my husbands dream about rolling in the hay with Salma Hayek. Especially when I am still trying to get back into that saddle...
    I guess I have a double standard? Or poor self esteem...
    posted by Blogger Melissa at 7/26/2006 08:59:00 AM  

  • You'll have to count me out on this one--it's too fun to have these dreams just between me and my man. :)
    posted by Blogger Katie at 7/26/2006 10:07:00 AM  

  • I would like to thank this thread for my dream last night. And no, it wasn't sexy or anything, but I dreamed I was pregnant, and the baby was either my ex boyfriend's or...ewwww....Al Gore's! Yucky!

    When I told Al Gore, (in my dream, I don't actually talk to Al Gore) his office sent me a puzzle of the earth and a note saying he didn't want to have anything to do with me or the baby, even if it was his.

    When I told my ex-boyfriend, he at least wanted a paternity test, but he was freaked out because he was married.

    I blame this thread entirely.
    posted by Blogger The Wiz at 7/26/2006 10:16:00 AM  

  • I was hoping that this thread would spark some dreams after seeing Brad Pitt at a toy store yesterday, but no luck ;)
    posted by Blogger trimama at 7/27/2006 04:19:00 PM  

  • Hold on, you actually SAW Brad Pitt or was this a dream? Do tell Tri Mama!
    posted by Blogger chloe at 7/27/2006 10:23:00 PM  

  • Cheryl, I just get around spselling out Matthew McConna-whatever's name by shortening it to McConna-hotty.
    posted by Blogger Julie at 7/28/2006 07:31:00 AM  

  • julie- Ooh, I like that!
    posted by Blogger Cheryl at 7/28/2006 08:39:00 AM  

  • Chloe:
    I went to malibu and took the kids to a cute toy store with a friend. My friend whispered to me turn around and sure enought Brad, Angelina, and Maddux were shopping for toys. They all looked picture perfect.
    posted by Blogger trimama at 7/28/2006 11:04:00 AM  

  • I have actually had really scary dreams lately . I am glad you posted this cause i haven't been able to tell anyone the crazy things Ive seen (in slumber land)
    So far I have:

    Killed people by melting their faces off with windex

    lost my child in a crowded church

    watched my husband cheat with another woman (in the same church no less)

    endured armegeddon.

    Watched all the oil tankers in the NY harbor (if they even dock here, Ill never know) burn like wild fire.

    This was all last week.
    This week everytime i wake up to go to the bathroom I have the Blues Clues song running through my head and I cant fall back to sleep. So no scary dreams.

    Being pregnant is messing me up!
    posted by Blogger ksl at 7/28/2006 12:28:00 PM  

  • KSL, I'm sorry but that was really funny to read! Yes, your hormones are completely out of whack, but such entertaining dreams!

    Tri Mama - I'm so jealous that you saw this funky family. I think that Angelina is one of the coolest chicks on the planet and would die if I saw her in real life - so cool.
    posted by Blogger chloe at 7/28/2006 03:08:00 PM  

  • Chloe:
    Angelina was way more striking than Brad and already sporting a pair of black tapered jeans after having a baby just a few weeks ago. UGH!
    posted by Blogger trimama at 8/06/2006 05:33:00 PM  

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