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Wednesday, June 14, 2006

Getting Even with Hubby on Father's Day

As far as I'm concerned, my husband did the very worst thing he possibly could have on Mother's Day:That's right. He knocked it out of the park his first time up at bat (notice the baseball analogy just in time for Father's Day). My mother's day was GREAT! Thoughtful, appropriate gift I would never buy myself; delicious homemade meal; taking more than his share of the child care, blah, blah, blah. I confess, even then I knew I was in trouble. I started worrying as night fell and he made brownies (my favorite) for me, that I'd never be able to come close, but I put it out of my mind thinking I had plenty of time to get it together. Mmmm. It's the Wed. night before Father's Day. So you must help! Please ladies, you were all so great with what a good mother's day gift is, but I'm totally stuck about what to get JD for his first Father's Day. What are your tried and true? your best? your worst? etc. Ideas about what to get your own father, I wouldn't mind either, but what I'm really looking for is help matching what my beloved did for me. (Also, stories about how you screwed up on your DH's day would not be amiss here, since I think that's where I'm headed, and misery loves company:)

Many thanks in advance.


  • I totally can't remember what I did for my Dh's first Father's Day, but then again, I can't remember what he did for me either. I am sure it consisted of a good hearty breakfast, his favorite dinner and dessert, a nice card and gift. I also give him full access to the remote control the entire day. Basically I try to fill the day with all the special treats that I know he loves but doesn't get to enjoy very often. Not very creative, but I thinks it makes for a very nice day.

    He might be able to consider this year as the worst Father's Day ever because I am taking the girls and driving to UT Sunday morning. So he gets to spend the day alone. I have declared a new Father's Day on Saturday so hopefully it won't be a total bust.
    posted by Blogger TftCarrie at 6/14/2006 07:20:00 PM  

  • Well, mother's day and father's day have drastically improved in our home since one HORRIBLE year when DH sorta forgot to celebrate mother's day. His reasoning: "you're not MY mother." My response: "I am your children's mother and until they can do something special for me on mother's day, it is YOUR responsibility to do it for them!!!!" Yes, it was a bomb, and no, he'll never forget it. Especially since the following Father's Day was not celebrated either. We believe in equality!

    So, the next year, we called it a truce and we celebrate it up big! 2 years ago, he took the kids from room to room in our house, out in the car, to different stores, etc. and made a "video mother's day card." It was so amazing! I loved it! His video was titled, "A day in your life." And he just reviewed all the things I do on a daily basis. It was very fun to watch and I cherish it. That same year- I made a movie of video clips and pictures of him and the kids, all set to music, with captions and all. I used windows movie maker and it turned out amazing. He cried through the whole thing, multiple times. Both of these gifts are priceless! But with a new baby, there's not a TON you can do and the baby can't participate much... I have to pry the camera out of my older kids' hands! Anyways, those are just 2 fun ideas... I loved them! Good luck!
    posted by Blogger BJHBHB at 6/14/2006 09:56:00 PM  

  • BJHBHB reminded me that when our first was a babe I made a video called My Girl with shots of him with the baby set to that song. I think that was the best gift I ever gave him.

    I usually give my Dad a book.

    This year...DH, if you are reading this it's time to stop.


    I MEAN IT.

    This year we are giving him a t-shirt (he always wears one on Sat.) with an iron-on of his two girls...it's blue with a black and white photo, he will love it. And for the record, this year for M's Day he took the girls to pick out cards (both were happy birthday you're 7 (or something) cards), made me pancakes with no chocolate chips (sin) or syrup, and gave me a pound of twizzler which he finished. I forgive him.
    posted by Blogger Kage at 6/15/2006 04:56:00 AM  

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    posted by Blogger Tri Mama at 6/15/2006 08:35:00 AM  

  • tftcarrie:
    We just drove home from Utah to California with two little ones and my husband would have considered it a gift if I did it alone :)

    My husband loves a great breakfast on Father's Day, so I make Paula Deen's French Toast Casserole (I use a little more half the liquid otherwise it comes out soggy.) Its easy and really makes my husband smile. Good Luck!
    posted by Blogger Tri Mama at 6/15/2006 08:39:00 AM  

  • How wonderfully sweet and annoying of your DH!!!

    Some ideas:

    *Feeding off Kage's video idea, you could do a mini-photo album of pics of just DH and DD together with captions or quotes or a poem or something like that.

    *When pinched for time, I sometimes do a "coupon book." Its a little cheesy, but you can include good stuff like an "All Night Sleep Pass", coupon for a foot massage, etc. etc.

    My DH likes the "gift of time"....setting aside time to do the thing he used to enjoy a lot more before our kids....but often feels too guilty to do with his heavy work schedule and the demands of two young kids. For his recent bday, he spent an entire guilt-free afternoon at a bookstore with a gift certificate for books in hand.
    posted by Blogger Jen at 6/15/2006 09:30:00 AM  

  • Oh yeah...this year my gift to DH is to teach his primary class with 10 11-year old boys. Yikes! But that's what he wants.
    posted by Blogger Jen at 6/15/2006 09:37:00 AM  

  • I just remembered another thing I did one year for Father's day. I bought "The Daddy Book" for DD to give to him. It's a kids book, but it's one that he still enjoys reading to her years later. There are really cute board books that you could get for a younger baby to "give" dad. LIke this one.

    Oh, and what I get my dad? A tie. Really original I know, but one year I didn't and my mom told me how much my dad looks forward to getting ties from me. I guess he thinks they are "cooler" than the ones my mom picks out for him. So that's what I do and now I make sure to pick one that pushes his style limits.
    posted by Blogger TftCarrie at 6/15/2006 09:51:00 AM  

  • Last year (DH's first Father's Day), DD got him the book, "Why a Daughter Needs a Dad". I put her hand and foot prints in the cover and wrote something from DD. Also, we let him sleep in (usually weekends are his time to get up with the baby) and made him breakfast. For a present, I think we got him a new outfit, not sure though.

    Haven't quite decided what to get DH this year. DD picked out a card from her and I will have her color in it. Probably breakfast and dinner and most likely a couple new ties - that is what he wants and needs.
    posted by Blogger Elise at 6/15/2006 12:30:00 PM  

  • One time I got both my father and my father in law some really cool gloves with a flashlight on them from Sears... called "Illuma-gloves," I don't know how do the insert in the paragraph, so just look here:

    They're on clearance too... they were seriously the hit of all the presents everyone gave! Check em out!
    posted by Blogger BJHBHB at 6/15/2006 12:48:00 PM  

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    posted by Blogger TftCarrie at 6/15/2006 02:57:00 PM  

  • Mother's Day and Father's Day have, over the last 3 years, become our biggest holidays. DH's b-day is too close to Christmas, and mine is too close to Valentine's Day, and with all those gift-giving holidays so close together...well, you get the picture.

    This year I recieved running shoes, a movie (picked out by the kids --a cartoon, of course :) ), 3 dozen roses, an Andrea Boccelli CD, and an enormous, gorgeous piece of art showing a landscape in Italy for the front room. I got breakfast in bed, the house was clean, and I got to take a nap. Oh, and dinner was made of course.

    How the heck am I going to top that? Well, I have this planned:

    Breakfast, lunch and dinner served wherever and however he wants; gifts include: new shirts, books, pictures from his kids, a movie (cartoon!!), and a guitar with the CD-ROM "how to learn it" thing from Costco. He might get flowers, too. Then he'll get to play X-box and watch sports for as long as he wants, and I won't complain. :)

    Man, I'll tell you what, Christmas is a breeze compared to these holidays for us!
    posted by Blogger Cheryl at 6/15/2006 05:19:00 PM  

  • cheryl, I have never heard of anything like this....whoa.
    posted by Blogger Kage at 6/15/2006 06:58:00 PM  

  • Yeah, I know it's a little over the top --as my mother frequently reminds me. :) But hey, after the several birthdays DH has butchered or missed, I figure I deserve it! And the guilt, of course, keeps me making his day big, too... :)
    posted by Blogger Cheryl at 6/16/2006 09:40:00 AM  

  • Thanks TftCarrie! The mystery is solved!
    posted by Blogger BJHBHB at 6/16/2006 06:24:00 PM  

  • I heard that a local radio station in my home town was giving out a free paternal test to one lucky or unlucky (depends on how you look at it) father for Father's Day. It's a bit sad but I found it amusing. Now, I'm not suggesting this to anyone. I just thought I'd share it.
    posted by Anonymous Anonymous at 6/16/2006 10:14:00 PM  

  • I also wrote a little something to my hubby for F's Day. You can read it here. Hope all the plans went well....

    My DH liked the shirt a lot too.
    posted by Blogger Kage at 6/18/2006 04:29:00 PM  

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